As the Pendulum Swings - The Mind-Brain Connection by Lindsay A Brady

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Finding the Connection Connecting Peace of Mind and the Joy of Consciousness

"As the Pendulum Swings" is Lindsay A. Brady's true life story. Brady is a nationally recognized clinical hypnotherapist. The book is divided into two parts. Part one tells of Brady's early interest in hypnosis and of his curiosity regarding the mind/brain connection. It talks about his search for answers to unresolved questions and about how he overcame his lack of confidence, his inhibitions, his scholastic deficits, and of his low self perception.

Brady uses sketches as illustrative case studies to provide the reader with an understanding of the process and objectives of hypnosis and hypnotherapy. He explains how "perceptionism" is the force in hypnotherapy. Brady describes how he developed an approach to help his clients overcome their self destructive behaviors.

Part two explores his theory behind hypnosis and of the influences that led to his conclusions. He discusses perception, regression, and altered consciousness. Brady shares illustrations of "conversations" held in his own "inner room." He tells of drawing on wisdom from conversations with an inner wisdom he named "Socrates."

The book includes a comprehensive appendix which with detailed information on the structure of a typical perceptionism session, perception's influence, the nervous system, and muscular behavior. He also provides insight into eliminating the difficulties of stress and anxiety. I appreciated the excellent bibliography which includes book resources and available courses.

Brady is intellectually stimulating. His writing is fast moving, and hilarious. His self deprecating humor hides his true genius. He is very entertaining, rich in profound insight and understanding in areas of consciousness and self fulfillment.

"As the Pendulum Swings" is a welcome addition to the reading list or library of all who are interested in investigating the "mind/brain" connection. Worthwhile, stimulating, and entertaining.

Robert D. Reed Publishers, 978-1934759363

As Reviewed for Midwest Book Review

Richard R. Blake, Christian Education Consultant, Freelance Writer, Editiorial Resources, Critiques, Book Reviews

Overcoming Passive Aggression

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What I like about the book is that even though it addresses the angry person as "the problem" and the focus is on how that person expresses or fails to express hidden anger, there is a strong call to action on the part of the person who is in a relationship with the angry person. And part of the call is being careful about the way we express anger.

The book identifies several types of passive-aggressive people and their deep inner motivations for expressing their anger passively. The authors point out that there are deep inner needs that drive the other person's behavior and they often stem from childhood. Understanding what those needs might be help to explain why they are using these sneaky expressions of behavior instead of expressing it directly.

It also separates the differences you encounter when the passive-aggressive person is your partner, your child, your parent, your boss, your coworker, or your best friend.

The authors give detailed descriptions and great case stories to illustrate how the different types of passive-aggressive behavior show up.

They have numerous checklists to take in case, you, the reader, are the angry person expressing it passively. And they identify the costs of anger in terms of health challenges, ruined marriages, lost job promotions, estranged family relationships and others.

If you are dealing with someone's hidden anger at home, at work or in some other situation, you are likely to recognize it as you read this book. Most likely, you know that already, but one of the possible problems they mentioned is that people enable and protect the angry person, denying, ignoring or minimizing the other person's behavior.

For me, the most helpful part of the book is the part where they describe enabling and issue the call to stop it. They make several suggestions about the changes you need to make if you are encountering someone's hidden anger...

(1) Immediately stop enabling it. Address it directly and clearly and set firm boundaries about what is or is not acceptable.

(2) But do so calmly, watching carefully the way you express your own anger, lessening your own reactiveness when something happens. Be as positive as you can during each interaction. Make the interaction about resolution and state clearly what you would like to see happen to resolve the problem.

(3) Don't accept excuses if you are clear that what happened is an example of hidden anger expressed in a passive-aggressive way. And be direct about the consequences of continuing the behavior.

(4) Don't be drawn into an argument about which one of you is right and which one is wrong.

(5) Be careful not to attack the person but to focus instead on what happened and what you believe needs to happen now and in the future. Behavior not character.

"About half of passive-aggressors are fully aware of what they are doing, Engel estimates. The rest act (or don't act) unwittingly and then wonder why they get people's blood boiling."-- therapist Beverly Engel, author of Honor Your Anger: How Transforming Your Anger Style Can Change Your Life.

For more information about how to deal with the passive-aggressive person in your life, go to http://www.squidoo.com/overcoming-passive-aggression.

For a recorded meditation that will help you heal the anger and hurt feelings that have built up in you due to your partner's passive-aggressive behavior, go to Healing Relationship Issues.

Jeanine Byers Hoag is a certified holistic health practitioner and is the author of the forthcoming The Life That's Waiting for You: Four Simple Steps to Identifying and Living Your Life Purpose.

The Science and Psychology of Lying - Psychological Book Review

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All humans lie, in fact they are probably one of the most deceptive species on the entire planet, and with their rather large brain humans are able to lie about just about anything. We know when our politicians are lying to us, what's that old joke; "when their lips are moving." But did you know that your parents lie, your teachers lie, your boss lies, your spouse lies, and everywhere you go half of what you hear is not entirely correct.

Some believe this is a moral choice, and it varies from culture to culture, but for the most part it permeates every human endeavor in every culture. If you'd like to learn more about the psychology of lying, and how to spot a liar, not that it's that hard, then I have a really good research book that like to recommend to you. It's helped me significantly in business, and allowed me to forgive all the Liars I run across. The book is called;

"Lying; Moral Choice in Public and Private Life," by Sissela Bok, 1978.

The research writer asks the question; what is the whole truth? And what's the difference between a Liars perception and the perspective of the deceived; these are both different points of view. There are a couple of very good chapters on this topic, and the author does not lie in explaining it. She also goes into great detail on religious lies, and when you must lie based on your job or duty. These are all dilemmas that the book discusses.

She also talks about white lies and the justification of such, along with mutual deceit, and even the ethics of lying to Liars. How about giving the enemy their due, and deception in warfare, competition, etc, indeed, she discusses what she calls the noble lie, along with the lies or compliments which are not deserved. I think you will very much enjoy the book, and if you are psychologists I recommend it to you, because it might help you to stop lying to yourself. Please consider all this.

Lance Winslow is a retired Founder of a Nationwide Franchise Chain, and now runs the Online Think Tank. Lance Winslow believes in truth.